As we all know first dates can turn out to be awkward, exciting, wonderful nerve wracking, quite uncomfortable, and intimidating. But before going on a date you should know the things to do on a first date and topics to discuss on a first date.
First dates should be fun, light, and interesting. First dates are open opportunities to get to know someone new and decide plus figure out of you would like to see that person again, go on a second date and get to know them again.
Talking is a game that is played on the very first date. You need to excel in it. And for that, you will need to excel and advance your conversation skills. So that you can get date number two. But sadly not every person is blessed in the conversation category. There are things people say that they wish they can take back.
If your date went to the restroom and has not returned and is taking too long. It is because they have excused themselves and bailed out and not because your date has diarrhea. It can only happen when you accidentally say the wrong thing and lose your date. If you find yourself in these types of situations quite frequently with your date then you should figure out by now that you are spending a lot of time talking about the things that are usually and most a big and huge turnoff. You must be wondering what not to talk about on a first date. To help you we have come up with a few topics you need to remove completely if you want a second date.
These mentioned topics should be avoided for you to have an amazing date and to have a chance of a second date too.
1. Do not talk about your ex
It is okay to ask how long they have been single and what problems in the relationship caused it to end. But don’t get stuck on this topic for long. Do not bring up your exes. No one would want to know and talk about your ex.
Talking too much about exes with your date will make them uncomfortable and have red flags. The ex talk is a clear indicator that you may not be over your past relationship and are not ready for a new relationship. Give a basic overview of your past relationship then move on. Make sure to leave past relationship comparisons off the table and focus on getting to know your date. Because past relationships can be discussed when you have developed a deeper bond and relationship with that date.
2. No talk about politics
Politics are a huge turnoff. It does not include the topics you should be discussing with your date. It doesn’t matter how passionate you are about your political views but you better leave this topic if you want to have a second date and if you are looking forward to a relationship. This topic is one of the quickest and fastest ways to upset any other person and ruin your date. Politics talk is mostly boring talk and the conversation should be interesting instead of boring.
3. Money problems and way of earning
Your first date shouldn’t be like an interview. No one likes to or would want to talk about money on the very first date. Discussing things like their income or yours will make your date feel heavy and uncomfortable. Talking about money will come off as rude, and impolite and have chances to make you seem shallow. It is a sensitive topic for those who don’t have it and for those who have it too. Your date will think that it is all you care about.
4. Do not talk about religion
You are free to talk about religion if you want the chance to go on a second date. This topic can lead to a very heated debate and conversation. Because people are hot and cold when it comes to religion. All of us have different opinions and not everyone agrees and likes it. This topic can be brought up on the second date though.
5. Do not be a “we” person
Do not refer to you and your date as “we.” What would we be like if we were dating? Shouldn’t we do this? Shouldn’t we do that? Where should we go next for a second date? Do not say we because it will make your date run and ditch you. This “we” can turn out to be freaky because you and your date just met. At all costs avoid “we” statements.
6. Do not pass comments on age
It is okay to ask and know your date’s age but be careful how you react to it. Even if you mean you are only 25? As a compliment, it may come out as different. It can make your date feel judged. So avoid comments not only on age but other things too and be aware of your reactions.
7. Do not ask any weird questions
Do not ask any weird questions like “what would your parents think of me?”. While it is important to know your date by asking thoughtful questions and establishing a deep and emotional connection do not ask any weird questions. These questions can make you seem like you are stepping over the line. If you want your date to go smooth and do not want to cross boundaries then only focus on letting the conversation flow organically.